Relationships – Support System
One might say, that the building principles we incorporate for the foundation of a home, are much like the ones needed to support and secure the strength of your Relationships. I have found that the Magic Ingredient for All Healthy Relationships is the personal Journey to Self-Love.
Relationships must be built on firm footings, as they are only as strong as what lies beneath.
What Lies Beneath Your Foundation?
As the health of a trees root system is essential for their nourishment and support, so too is the importance of what lies below the foundation of All Relationships, especially the one with ourselves! When we carry from our Past, unresolved trauma, anger, resentment, and pain, ultimately all can decay and rot. Compromising a foundations Strength, sometimes Irreversibly.
Clearing past issues before we began a Relationship, include a brave look at ourselves, our masks. The masks need to fall, or the deeper issues will remain, disrupting Our Peace until we acknowledge them. It is Never too late to begin this Valuable process, for our own Personal Growth and the Path to Forgiveness.
Listen For Inner Guidance
When we unsuccessfully try to ignore our Inner Guidance, not able to look or address our Fears, soon our Inner Guidance’s voice begins to Scream for our attention. The path then, becomes Rocky until we face our cloaked demons! Those we thought would remain locked in the toy box of unwanted memories!
We must Realize that Paint and Spackle can only mask cosmetically. The deeper issues will remain, disrupting our Peace until they are Acknowledged.
I see this photo as the Hand of Grace reaching for mine, to bring me back from the depths of Despair. The depths I found myself for longer than I even knew. As the Divine within, blanketed me with Love, until I could love Myself.
It paints a Powerful image I will Always remember. So each time I recall and share, My Story, My Message, My Heart Opens more to Self-Love. Reminding me of the Love that was shared in the depths of My Darkness.
Unresolved Traumas continue to come forward, taking many different often Crippling avenues until they are recognized and addressed. This action may seem unnecessary, when no apparent problems are visible at first glance. Realize, as with any Building Project, an overlooked step will inevitably be cause for concern.
Cracks begin to appear, perhaps slowly at first, that eventually threaten all Future successes, and can leave Permanent scars.
Gambling On The Odds
We are not characters in a Storybook, why then, leave to chance, our Wishes, our Dreams, our Relationships. Our Precious Life. A life that deserves the necessary support to withstand the many challenges that Life will bring. When we leave the unresolved, they soon grow legs that continually wander not only into Our Nightmares, but Our everyday existence.
A Life we are willing to work diligently to insure it remains Stable.
Perseverance and Foresight, Strength and Desire are how we become one with our Foundation for a Lifetime. Our gained Self-awareness through this process, affords a sense of Security and Pride. Knowing we created a Sustainable setting for all Future Growth. As we have seen the crumbling stone foundation of our past life falter, we now taste a new way to Live. To Love and Embrace all of Who we Are!
Shadows and All.
Investing In Our Self-Worth
Looking bravely Face to Face into the depths of Darkness, that lie beneath the foundation can be daunting. Perhaps yours like mine, was a foundation built on quicksand.
It was years, before I was able to finally face the demons under my bed. My childhood toys, Old and tattered as they were, in an odd way were familiar, they held the secrets and the shame from my childhood.
The secrets of My Shadow-Self that only they knew.
I Didn’t Break – I Didn’t Die
All the pain and shame I thought I had hidden in the depths of my Mind, began to come out of the closet, into the forefront of my thoughts. It was not an easy one, but I knew it was finally time for me to face them. The time was long past due, putting it off any longer would only allow me to fall deeper into the depths of Despair.
Now through My Eyes as an Adult.
No longer did I need to face this alone. Perhaps I was never meant to. As the fog of my life began to lift, I realized that the shame I carried for far too long, was Never mine to claim. When we allow our Emotions to take control, they Grow and Distort experiences, as the lack of Self-Worth continues to Grow.
Until the Self-Blame blinders are removed.
I could say, as many do, what took you so long. But I won’t. There is no need for one more issue of Self-Blame. Instead, I now see the Reflection of a Smiling face, the Little girl in me, so Brave, so Courageous, now Safe, now Free.
You see, we are never alone in our Self-imposed Darkness. As we break free, we realize we always had the ability to see the Light of Guidance along Our Path.
Illuminating Our way Home.
No, we are not alone through Our Journey. We can replace the tattered Old toys, stuffed with our Tears of Sadness, and find a new companion, Our Self-Love called…Peace.
A Foundation To Build Upon
Divine blueprints, make perfect sense to Our Divine Architects!
Indeed, Homes are like Relationships, even the Relationship with Ourselves. All require, deserve, these common elements. With continued Care and Support, we protect all we now so Lovingly Reconstructed.
A place to house all Our Dreams, no longer storing this box of photos in depths of Our Mind – labeled…Secrets.
A Life we can fill with the fond Memories we missed through the Darkness of the past. The future Memories to come are Free to Bloom and Grow, now that the Light has cleansed the Darkness. As Light is a Powerful Disinfectant! Our Path is illuminated, as we reclaim Our Joy, Our Laughter, Our Peace. Our Life!
I am Grateful there is no Expiration Date on Personal Growth. A Grateful Heart, is a Magnet for Life’s Miracles!
After all, I Am One…
Peace and Blessings, Carol