A Symbiotic relationship – Is a interaction between people or between animals that coexist. Achieved, in a way that benefits All. In Nature Healthy Boundaries, are a beneficial relationship formed from need, through mutual respect.
Time On Kaua’i – A Magical Place
Vacationing at a Resort off the Point at Poipu, we witnessed just that, the magic of Nature. An arrangement was formed from need, between Turtles and Reef Fish.
There were no signed contracts, no endless meetings, purely Nature purely by their need to solve an issue that would benefit both. How civilized!
A bond was formed with Infinite Possibilities.
Whenever a Sea turtle swims for food, with its chief staple being seaweed, it attaches to their shell while they feed. When the seaweed remains, it impedes the turtle’s movement. We watched these magnificent creatures interact without fear, from morning til dusk. Met by their cooperative partners – the Reef fish.
Humanity can learn so much from witnessing how these Creatures interact.
Our Beautiful World
Watching how they with mutual respect, formed a beautiful arrangement of understanding without words. The result, a union through necessity between two very different species of Sea Creatures. Who mutually resolved a need.
Why Do I Need Boundaries?
Boundaries are your Personal Guidelines, limits that a person creates to identify to others your personal limits. Limits that protect your Energy levels and Emotions. Boundaries are put in place so you don’t become compromised, finding yourself in situations that are uncomfortable. You must teach others how you wish to be treated, especially if you once belonged the the People Pleaser Club.
“Boundaries are to protect life, not to limit pleasures.” Edwin L. Cole
A crucial component of Self-Care, creating Healthy Boundaries in your Life is about learning to Love and Respect you.
Listen carefully to Your Body, be mindful of Your Mood. Do you become Angry and feel a pit in Your Stomach at specific behaviors? Internal Clues that someone has crossed a boundary.
All Relationships, require reasonable Guidelines and expectations of acceptable behaviors. Otherwise you place yourself in vulnerable situations. Risking hurt feelings that can reach tipping points, with damage often beyond repair.
Parent-Child relationship boundaries are important, as they learn from your example. A Teaching moment, a necessary step for their own Self-Care and for how they should Respect and treat others.
As you become more attuned with your Internal Boundary, others traits may become apparent. For instance, you begin to notice how others use manipulation as a tool, an unhealthy situation for both parties. Manipulation is a damaging and controlling learned behavior.
Carefully consider those you choose to associate with.
The difference between a Healthy Boundary and Manipulation – Healthy Boundaries are not focused on the Outcome. Those who Manipulate Are!
Are You –
- Supported & respected by others in your Circle?
- Avoiding others behavior out of Fear of their reaction?
- Continually allowing others to use you?
- Feeling the repercussions internally of your decision not to act?
- Recognize Positive results of Healthy boundaries
- Feel Optimistic that this approach is beneficial for all
- Feel supported and respected and heard
- Appreciate Healthy feedback, and productive dialogue
- Are at Peace with your decisions, even if some walk away
- Daily Meditation – Brings Peace and Guidance – Hold an Amethyst crystal as you Meditate
- Visualize – A White shield encompassing your Being
- Smudge – Your Aura with Sage
- Wear or carry – A protective Crystal – Black tourmaline is known for its ability to transmute & “cleanse” Negative Energy
Communication is the key to some of the Worlds greatest issues. Through Self-Respect and respect for others, the door to an Open dialogue is always possible!
Life’s challenges can be your Greatest Teachers.
Channeled Message with – Atar – a Pleiadian Star Being from the Pleiades
Peace and Blessings, Carol