“Sticks And Stones May Break My Bones
– but words will never hurt me!”
Oh but…Yes, they do.
Words Matter, they cause harm in many areas – from self-esteem to body issues, feelings you may already have about yourself, now compounded and reinforced by the hurtful words of others.
Yes… Words Matter!
The scars can last for years, or a Lifetime.
Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but words will diminish my self-esteem and infect me with the Disease to Please. A phrase added by Oprah Winfrey.
Recognize The Poison
Verbal poison, criticisms are non-physical and not always apparent, but can be harmful just the same. Do you know of someone with a constant need to correct you, your mistakes, with suggestions that judge?
“A poison dart with honey on the tip still buries deeply.” Carol
When advice, unsolicited feels like criticism, it usually is. Your best defense is to NOT take them personally, when you do, you give them power.
Some may react to a look on your face, seeing they have crossed a line, with responses such as – “I was just kidding,” but really “You are too Sensitive.” These half apologies are often too late, for the hurt is, already deeply felt.
Does the other person realize their remarks may be issues already known or believed, as they now intensify your feelings of insecurity?
Verbal abuse does not only come from people we think of as bullies. They can come from friends, family, authoritative figures we trust, compounding the assault.
“The first time people show you who they are, believe them.” Maya Angelou
Avoidance Seldom Works
Many times you try to avoid the person who has brought up these feelings.
As adults, you know how difficult it can be to verbalize, take control, speak to the person about how their words make you feel.
Imagine how difficult, even impossible it must be for a child to verbalize these same feelings. Taught from a young age to respect and not talk back to your elders.
Children do not have the emotional maturity, to deal with situations that require protecting themselves, especially from those in authority.
Often children, deny, ignore, or act out when they continue to keep their feelings hidden.
Words Matter – Choose Them Wisely
“Words can be as damaging to the Mind, as Physical blows are to the Body.” Patricia Evans
You may be surprised as you witness how others respond to your words, realizing you may also cause others distress. When you become more aware, learn to speak with sensitivity and understanding, showing respect for others feelings.
The respect we all deserve.
Remain conscious of what you may be communicating to others. When you, you receive a more desirable response and outcome.
“Destroy negative thoughts as they appear. As this is when they are the weakest.” Songide Makwa
Criticism is often used as a teaching tool, but usually has adverse effects. Fear of revisiting the repeated criticism, those harmed, may internalize and shun their own Desires to achieve.
Immune System – Self Esteem
“The cells in the body react to what they hear from the mind. Negativity lowers the Immune system.” Alexander Groseth
How healthy is your immune system?
When you accept as Truth, the baggage of others, permission to remain is granted.
After such assaults, avoid throwing a dart back to the sender. Resist extending the lease, remaining in this house of pain.
“In any given moment, I might be wounded, but I choose not to act from my wound.” Marianne Williamson
Names can only hurt if you allow them in, when a flying dart approaches, examine and discern its origin. Does this apply to me, or is this merely the feelings the thrower feels internally?
A shift in Your consciousness creates a change within.
Say Hello to your Personal Power Shield.
Peace and Blessings, Carol